Sanity-Saving Ways to Work From Home With Your Significant Other
OK. So you and your significant other are lucky enough to work from home. Whether you’re a freelance writer, an employee of a company who allows you to work from your home office or some other type of lucky stiff who gets to make money from home, chances are you’ve run into one or more of these scenarios. When both your and your spouse’s work from home dough depends on deadlines, it’s important to have a game plan ahead of time to avoid some common home office co-habitation pitfalls.
1. Try to have your working spaces as far away as possible
This may not always be possible, but do the best you can. Having to walk upstairs or to the back of the house may curb your overwhelming desire to “tell him this one thing really quickly.” Another benefit of this is you don’t have to listen to him or her on the phone or worse, listen to their “muse music” as well.
2. Set specific work hours and resist the urge for “home talk”
Having your significant other under the same roof may tempt you to ask him or her to take care of a household chore when the rest of the working world is slaving away in their cubicles. Nip this in the bud by setting the same or similar work hours as those cubicle dwellers and stick to that schedule come hell or high water. Take it a step further and bar any contact with each other that isn’t directly related to work matters. That way, no one will be tempted to ask what’s for dinner or to remind the other person that the lawn needs to be mowed.
3. If you hear the other person milling around the house, don’t leave your office
So he’s in the kitchen getting a mid-morning snack. Don’t suddenly conclude that you’re famished as well or that your coffee mug all of a sudden needs a refill. Not only will that break your concentration, but it will almost certainly lend itself to a “home talk” session (see #2). Your bagel or coffee refill can wait a few minutes until he’s back to work.
4. Don’t “check up” (re: spy) on the other person via social media outlets
She Tweets that she got an email from a client complaining about the copy she sent over. Of course you should be supportive, but unless it’s a dire emergency as opposed to “run-of-the-mill” client interaction, wait until after the workday to lend a sympathetic ear. The best way to resist this temptation is to either not sign onto these social media sites at all (gasp!) during your work hours or to have separate logins…one professional and one personal maybe- and don’t add him or her. It’s less harsh than it sounds, trust us.
5. If you MUST procrastinate or take an extended break…and take it out of the house
We all have those days. Whether it’s because there isn’t a cloud to be seen in the blue sky or you’re just having an “off” day and the words aren’t sounding so hot, don’t stick around and be the serpent with the apple. Instead, go for a walk and enjoy that blue sky or head out to a coffee house with a book to allow your significant other the opportunity to capitalize on the productivity they might be experiencing…which you shouldn’t know about…if you’ve been keeping your distance as we suggested.
It doesn’t matter if you are a copywriter and he’s a fiction author or he’s a tech writer and you’re the SEO master. Both of you are fortunate enough to be able to enjoy the freedom of a work from home career. Live it up, but don’t become too relaxed or else the only thing that may get done around there is nothing.


This is an excellent post. My husband and I work from home together and have opposing schedules, so it’s very easy for the one of us who is “off” to wander in and interrupt the one who is still working. (Namely, he interrupts me. Of course, that’s probably not what he would say!)
I love your ideas and am going to adapt them for couples with opposing schedules.
Jennifer- Thanks so much for your kind words! My husband and I deal with this as well and I have to admit, I’M the bad one with the temptations! :-) These tips have been things that we’ve adopted in the last few months and they have worked wonders when it comes to productivity…and sanity! Good luck!
Guy: Oh you sunk my battleship! Guess the only thing left is my underpants…
Girl: Actually, just keep those on…
I’m sorry someone had to say it… that’s the first impression I get when I see the first image.
Am I the only one that thinks that they are playing adult battleship rather than working on their laptops? haha
@Michael- Maybe not the only one who THOUGHT it but definitely the first to post about it :-) Thanks for visiting our site!
EXCELLENT Post :-)
My husband and I also are blessed with this circumstance.
This is VERY helpful :-)
ESPECIALLY since we each have very different work styles :-)
As if any one could be like me … LOL … yea, I know good huh ;-)
I met someone at a writers’ conference who was a full-time writer/blogger (sorry, don’t remember her name only her story). Her husband was also at home, working full-time and she also home-schooled her three children. The amazing thing about it was that she seemed perfectly sane. It made me feel crazy just listening to her. There is such a thing as too much togetherness. Hopefully, they have seperate beds.
Wow—my head is spinning as I read your description of her! I definitely agree there is a such thing as too much togetherness. Maybe she takes a lot of walks alone :-)
Walking VERY Good :-)
Hmm. These are helpful. My husband just began to work from home (with me) five months ago. And while I’me sure I’ll view it as a blessing someday, it’s been challenging trying to adjust. My least favorite move? Talking loudly to me when I am on an important telephone conference. THese will be helpful as we learn to work “together” separately. Thanks!